Personal Managment Tips: The way I do it everyday

Adaptivenes: This makes life happy :)

2009-04-22T09:04:00.000-07:00

When we are young usually we relocate for studies and work. As and when we relocate, we face an entirely new world. A new world where everything is different, culture, living style, food, friends and many more things. Understanding these difference and adapting to them is considered as the key to success. There is famous quote " Be a Roman in Rome", this is clearly a success mantra in career and business.

I agree with this but with a little modification to the concept of being Roman in Rome. There is a difference between being successful and being happy. What I feel is , both of these element individually do not lead to a great life. If you are happy and not successful, you can not enjoy a proper social status. On the other hand, if you are successful but not happy, you will not find right class of people to enjoy your success. Therefore, a proper amalgamation of both will lead to a great life.

If you are in Rome and very happy to be a Roman then this is an ideal case. But most of us come from different cultural backgrounds and leaving certain things are not possible. Therefore, understanding of difference and optimizing with your religious and cultural difference is an art. People, who master this optimization are most successful and happy. They are successful as they know, how to behave in certain situation and happy because they don't compromise for certain things which are really important to them.

The faster you learn this, the faster you are going to grow. If you are doing average at job/education and happy you are getting close to a bigger success. The key here is to learn quickly, optimize and adapt. Once you are done with optimization graphs concentrate on work and prove the metal.. Success should be waiting the other side. Here are simple tips to be considered during adapting time.

1. Be patient, don't be in hurry to make decisions and jump into conclusions. Take examples of different situations. And analyze yourself.
2. Listen to the experienced people. People who faced the same conditions and are successful. Listen to failures too but dont worry about their experiences. Successful people give a better insight.
3. Have a clear understanding of what is your culture and religion is. Till what extent you can compromise. I call them principles.
4. Keep a view on the instances and situation where you can not compromise on your principles. Try to avoid these as much as possible.
5. The most important thing, once you are in a situation of where things clash, convey why you can not follow certain things. Be polite and humble and explain, instead of being adamant and proud with superiority complex.

I think these tips will be helpful for you when you move to a new place. Also help you to lead a fast and successful optimization of your adaptability. If you want to share something please write a comment :)

Critism: Dont Just avoid it, if you can cash it..

2009-04-11T00:28:00.001-07:00

'Criticism' the first look at this word gives a negative feeling, and someone who is criticizing looks like enemy. We usually face criticism in our daily life. Sometimes during a general talk among friends you feel someone is targeting you. Everyone point you make they try to either criticize it or harshly reject it. Sometimes your family members, coworkers, people you know at different places, or your close friends tend to criticize your ideas and way of working. If regular criticism leads to an end to the relationship or even to a hard feeling for the person who is criticizing.

Here I give the tips useful to deal with criticism in daily life:

1. Take it open heartedly if you think you are strong enough to keep your image after criticism (sometimes humiliation ;-) ). Otherwise just pass on a smile and change the topic. The less is discussed on that topic is less harm your's feelings.

2. Definitely think about the points by other person when you are completely out of discussion and free. You may learn some thing from critics too. Ignore all crappy stuff that hurts you to stay happy.

3. Usually while criticizing, people tend to loose the core issue and move other topics and never get back to core problem wasting huge amount of time. So stay focused to learn what you need from criticism otherwise you will be lost by the diversity brought by the criticizer. And keep in mind self respect is most important, dont ever lose it for anyone.

4. Accepting all criticism is not suggestible :) give your points and answers too even though they are rejected harshly. You will learn why this criticisms is made, like to make you learn or just the they dont like anything that come from you, or the idea was wrong and they wanted to help you :)

5. Most importantly if someones criticism makes you loose confidence, best is to ignore them. Dont ever talk to them about your projects and important stuff. Whenever meet them talk about movies and fun stuff and keep relationship going :)

Respect difference of opinion because everyone is from a different professional and cultural background. Negative criticism for the sake of making someone learn is also acceptable, but to humiliate is never forgivable. You will treated same way as you treat others :)

Stay positive.. Stay Happy

Time Managment: Does frequecy matters to be friends

2009-04-07T21:09:00.001-07:00

Few people are really extroverts in their nature and be comfortable with anyone at anytime. Whatever extrovert you are, at some point you feel really uncomfortable in the company to few others and would like to avoid them. This i call as frequency.

This is really a strange term but very important for someone to be friend with other and a hate (little heavy word) few others.

Usually when I go out with people I either I learn something there, or make other people learn something from what I know, or if we are of equal competence we share and learn from each other. Apart from these, there is one more kind of discussion from which neither you learn something nor you remember it after you depart. Most of us when sit together we indulge in this kind of discussions. The last case will always lead to time waste.

I was usually victim of this, though never intend to be a part of this. Specially during lunch and coffee breaks. I usually go with friend who work with me for lunch everyday, and mostly the discussions are on movies, politics and company life and discussing things which are really not important and applicable.

Most of us we want to use our time properly and would like to something great which ordinary people can not do in their whole life and can not imagine of doing it either.

Instead of avoiding them completely and ignoring them I came up with the following strategies.

1. If discussion is of your interest, be a participant otherwise just listen and keep silent.
2. Just ignore all the discussions and make a plan for evening or week or month (as a background process).
3. Speak as less as possible. As sometimes it is worse than throwing a stone in cow dung.
4. Just ignore everyone's talk, as that is neither important nor useful for you.
5. Give an equal response ( you are intelligent enough to understand :) )

This is really important to keep the relationship going and using your time too. My logic is know everyone, mean smile at everyone and say hi, but a real friend to few. As a person is know by his friends, choose them carefully and keep them for life.

The lesson is to ignore the conversation of people who does not match you interests, caliber and ambitions. Ignore them and save time for some other great activity~~
*********This is frequency************

TEAM SAMSUNG: Changed its location in office

2007-07-13T00:28:00.000-07:00

Hey
Today we shifted our location in office. It was a wonderful event. Everybody was pretty busy with their shifting business. One of the employees took the vacuum cleaner and cleaned the space where we were going to sit from today.
The shifting flashed a bunch of question in my mind. I mailed them to my friends and got reply from both Rohit and Ajey. Rohit was aware of shifting as even shifted his location, but Ajey was unaware of the fact so asked me to just shift instead of running this into my brain. Some of the questions I asked them are:

1. Why they are all changing location.
2. Is there any logical significance.
3. Is it a usual practice in S/W companies
4. How much time they take to change positions
5. Does they start working immediately
6. Don’t it make difficult to work on an entirely new place.
7. Does it have a positive/negative impact and why.
8. Does we sit with same member as we were sitting.

Rohit answered them but I was not agreed with few of the answers. At last my shifting started, and I was involved in that. I like to participate with team rather than just being a spectator. So I shifted my lapy, the least weight one can have in office. I was my turn to help them in shifting. I started with the senior members, with whom I sit in office. So, I started with the cupboard of a senior engineer, which I used for keeping the lapy given to me for working here. Then Helped brother Hyung Hu lee and others in moving their stuff.
I enjoyed working with team and if ignored feel like leaving the place. It was a wonderful teamwork. Everyone was involved in that. Girls (Black and Red {their dress color, as I don’t know their names}) cleaned the tables with a wet cloth and men cleaned them all with Vacuum cleaner. Everyone placed their belongings in proper places and most of them were back to work.

Altogether, it was wonderful day, started with an offer from North America, the place I was planning to go since last three years, and a good interaction with team members. But the only thing hurts me is the missing of prayers (specially Friday prayer) here. I really miss the prayer environment here and have not been to mosque since last thirteen days. Moreover, eaten non-veg food for couple of times in lunch, may the Almighty forgive me for all mistakes I commit here and fill my heart with righteousness.
I strongly feel there is nothing in this world. We are to die one day and have to answer for our deeds. So I feel really bad to hurt someone and have bad feeling for someone. I have adopted the policy of forgiveness forever. If anyone hurts me I will forgive him and anyone likes me I will respect him and will stand with him forever.
I hope, I will start coding and test on Monday (July 16, 2007). I want to finish the work I have been assigned. Otherwise I will be always thinking about that and make myself inconvenient. I am positive and looking forward to finish the assigned work in couple of days. So today we were
‘TEAM SAMSUNG’

US Tagetting IRAN

2006-02-15T06:04:00.001-08:00

This morning i was in mess for breakfast, my friend Shariq, came near to me and told US is getting ready for the war on IRAN now. How rediculous it is, one country is trying to dominate other ones. This is not at all fair that all the neighbors of a country are nuclear states and it does not have the right to develop it's technology. Speaking about the freedom and human rights is the easiest thing but when it comes to the reality applying it the toughest one.

War against Iran might lead to the third world war. In my opinion war at any cost should be avoided, Even in this period of knowledge, nations are fighting for no cause ( to just superiority on others) is a shameless act. The worst part of the story is that no one is ready to ask a question to them . who the hell they are to do all this? are they caretakers of the entire world? and who gave them this authority?

Leaving it here and asking you to think over it.

If US goes for war against Iran, I hope this will be its last mistake (as it wont be able to do that again).