Few people are really extroverts in their nature and be comfortable with anyone at anytime. Whatever extrovert you are, at some point you feel really uncomfortable in the company to few others and would like to avoid them. This i call as frequency.
This is really a strange term but very important for someone to be friend with other and a hate (little heavy word) few others.
Usually when I go out with people I either I learn something there, or make other people learn something from what I know, or if we are of equal competence we share and learn from each other. Apart from these, there is one more kind of discussion from which neither you learn something nor you remember it after you depart. Most of us when sit together we indulge in this kind of discussions. The last case will always lead to time waste.
I was usually victim of this, though never intend to be a part of this. Specially during lunch and coffee breaks. I usually go with friend who work with me for lunch everyday, and mostly the discussions are on movies, politics and company life and discussing things which are really not important and applicable.
Most of us we want to use our time properly and would like to something great which ordinary people can not do in their whole life and can not imagine of doing it either.
Instead of avoiding them completely and ignoring them I came up with the following strategies.
1. If discussion is of your interest, be a participant otherwise just listen and keep silent.
2. Just ignore all the discussions and make a plan for evening or week or month (as a background process).
3. Speak as less as possible. As sometimes it is worse than throwing a stone in cow dung.
4. Just ignore everyone's talk, as that is neither important nor useful for you.
5. Give an equal response ( you are intelligent enough to understand :) )
This is really important to keep the relationship going and using your time too. My logic is know everyone, mean smile at everyone and say hi, but a real friend to few. As a person is know by his friends, choose them carefully and keep them for life.
The lesson is to ignore the conversation of people who does not match you interests, caliber and ambitions. Ignore them and save time for some other great activity~~
*********This is frequency************
