Adaptivenes: This makes life happy :)

When we are young usually we relocate for studies and work. As and when we relocate, we face an entirely new world. A new world where everything is different, culture, living style, food, friends and many more things. Understanding these difference and adapting to them is considered as the key to success. There is famous quote " Be a Roman in Rome", this is clearly a success mantra in career and business.

I agree with this but with a little modification to the concept of being Roman in Rome. There is a difference between being successful and being happy. What I feel is , both of these element individually do not lead to a great life. If you are happy and not successful, you can not enjoy a proper social status. On the other hand, if you are successful but not happy, you will not find right class of people to enjoy your success. Therefore, a proper amalgamation of both will lead to a great life.

If you are in Rome and very happy to be a Roman then this is an ideal case. But most of us come from different cultural backgrounds and leaving certain things are not possible. Therefore, understanding of difference and optimizing with your religious and cultural difference is an art. People, who master this optimization are most successful and happy. They are successful as they know, how to behave in certain situation and happy because they don't compromise for certain things which are really important to them.

The faster you learn this, the faster you are going to grow. If you are doing average at job/education and happy you are getting close to a bigger success. The key here is to learn quickly, optimize and adapt. Once you are done with optimization graphs concentrate on work and prove the metal.. Success should be waiting the other side. Here are simple tips to be considered during adapting time.

1. Be patient, don't be in hurry to make decisions and jump into conclusions. Take examples of different situations. And analyze yourself.
2. Listen to the experienced people. People who faced the same conditions and are successful. Listen to failures too but dont worry about their experiences. Successful people give a better insight.
3. Have a clear understanding of what is your culture and religion is. Till what extent you can compromise. I call them principles.
4. Keep a view on the instances and situation where you can not compromise on your principles. Try to avoid these as much as possible.
5. The most important thing, once you are in a situation of where things clash, convey why you can not follow certain things. Be polite and humble and explain, instead of being adamant and proud with superiority complex.

I think these tips will be helpful for you when you move to a new place. Also help you to lead a fast and successful optimization of your adaptability. If you want to share something please write a comment :)

Critism: Dont Just avoid it, if you can cash it..

'Criticism' the first look at this word gives a negative feeling, and someone who is criticizing looks like enemy. We usually face criticism in our daily life. Sometimes during a general talk among friends you feel someone is targeting you. Everyone point you make they try to either criticize it or harshly reject it. Sometimes your family members, coworkers, people you know at different places, or your close friends tend to criticize your ideas and way of working. If regular criticism leads to an end to the relationship or even to a hard feeling for the person who is criticizing.

Here I give the tips useful to deal with criticism in daily life:

1. Take it open heartedly if you think you are strong enough to keep your image after criticism (sometimes humiliation ;-) ). Otherwise just pass on a smile and change the topic. The less is discussed on that topic is less harm your's feelings.

2. Definitely think about the points by other person when you are completely out of discussion and free. You may learn some thing from critics too. Ignore all crappy stuff that hurts you to stay happy.

3. Usually while criticizing, people tend to loose the core issue and move other topics and never get back to core problem wasting huge amount of time. So stay focused to learn what you need from criticism otherwise you will be lost by the diversity brought by the criticizer. And keep in mind self respect is most important, dont ever lose it for anyone.

4. Accepting all criticism is not suggestible :) give your points and answers too even though they are rejected harshly. You will learn why this criticisms is made, like to make you learn or just the they dont like anything that come from you, or the idea was wrong and they wanted to help you :)

5. Most importantly if someones criticism makes you loose confidence, best is to ignore them. Dont ever talk to them about your projects and important stuff. Whenever meet them talk about movies and fun stuff and keep relationship going :)


Respect difference of opinion because everyone is from a different professional and cultural background. Negative criticism for the sake of making someone learn is also acceptable, but to humiliate is never forgivable. You will treated same way as you treat others :)

Stay positive.. Stay Happy

Time Managment: Does frequecy matters to be friends

Few people are really extroverts in their nature and be comfortable with anyone at anytime. Whatever extrovert you are, at some point you feel really uncomfortable in the company to few others and would like to avoid them. This i call as frequency.

This is really a strange term but very important for someone to be friend with other and a hate (little heavy word) few others.

Usually when I go out with people I either I learn something there, or make other people learn something from what I know, or if we are of equal competence we share and learn from each other. Apart from these, there is one more kind of discussion from which neither you learn something nor you remember it after you depart. Most of us when sit together we indulge in this kind of discussions. The last case will always lead to time waste.

I was usually victim of this, though never intend to be a part of this. Specially during lunch and coffee breaks. I usually go with friend who work with me for lunch everyday, and mostly the discussions are on movies, politics and company life and discussing things which are really not important and applicable.

Most of us we want to use our time properly and would like to something great which ordinary people can not do in their whole life and can not imagine of doing it either.

Instead of avoiding them completely and ignoring them I came up with the following strategies.

1. If discussion is of your interest, be a participant otherwise just listen and keep silent.
2. Just ignore all the discussions and make a plan for evening or week or month (as a background process).
3. Speak as less as possible. As sometimes it is worse than throwing a stone in cow dung.
4. Just ignore everyone's talk, as that is neither important nor useful for you.
5. Give an equal response ( you are intelligent enough to understand :) )

This is really important to keep the relationship going and using your time too. My logic is know everyone, mean smile at everyone and say hi, but a real friend to few. As a person is know by his friends, choose them carefully and keep them for life.

The lesson is to ignore the conversation of people who does not match you interests, caliber and ambitions. Ignore them and save time for some other great activity~~
*********This is frequency************