Few people are really extroverts in their nature and be comfortable with anyone at anytime. Whatever extrovert you are, at some point you feel really uncomfortable in the company to few others and would like to avoid them. This i call as frequency.
This is really a strange term but very important for someone to be friend with other and a hate (little heavy word) few others.
Usually when I go out with people I either I learn something there, or make other people learn something from what I know, or if we are of equal competence we share and learn from each other. Apart from these, there is one more kind of discussion from which neither you learn something nor you remember it after you depart. Most of us when sit together we indulge in this kind of discussions. The last case will always lead to time waste.
I was usually victim of this, though never intend to be a part of this. Specially during lunch and coffee breaks. I usually go with friend who work with me for lunch everyday, and mostly the discussions are on movies, politics and company life and discussing things which are really not important and applicable.
Most of us we want to use our time properly and would like to something great which ordinary people can not do in their whole life and can not imagine of doing it either.
Instead of avoiding them completely and ignoring them I came up with the following strategies.
1. If discussion is of your interest, be a participant otherwise just listen and keep silent.
2. Just ignore all the discussions and make a plan for evening or week or month (as a background process).
3. Speak as less as possible. As sometimes it is worse than throwing a stone in cow dung.
4. Just ignore everyone's talk, as that is neither important nor useful for you.
5. Give an equal response ( you are intelligent enough to understand :) )
This is really important to keep the relationship going and using your time too. My logic is know everyone, mean smile at everyone and say hi, but a real friend to few. As a person is know by his friends, choose them carefully and keep them for life.
The lesson is to ignore the conversation of people who does not match you interests, caliber and ambitions. Ignore them and save time for some other great activity~~
*********This is frequency************
3 comments:
Totally agree with you on these five points, as its real time scenario. To add to it, never ever feel passive when somebody calls you as silent and introvert at that time.
I agree with you. At that ignorance with a smile keep you save and others happy.
This actually I face everyday in office during lunch. And it was written as a reminder :)
I appreciate your kneen observation and research on human attitudes.
WHEN YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING FOR THE SOCIEY OR TO STRENGTHEN YOUR THOUTHS YOU NEED TO BE WITH YOUR MENTALITY PEOPLE. DONT BOTHER ABOUT OTHERS IN LIFE.
I REALLY WONDER YOUR OBSERVATION, SOME PEOPLE DOMINATES WITH THEIR ATTITUTES, JUST FOR THE SAKE OF CONTROLLING THEM EVEN THEY ARE NOT ELIGIBLE FOR THE DISCUSSION. THEY WILL END UP THE DISCUSSION IN A NASTY MANNER. I AGREE YOUR VIEWS TOTALLY. BE WITH YOUR KIND OF PEOPLE AND YOU WILL BE VALUED.
ALWAYS A HEALTHY AND HYGENIC WAY OF HANDLING THINGS GIVES PEACE OF MIND.
SO YOUR POINTS ARE REALLY GOOD.
ONE WILL BE VALUED FOR WHAT HE/SHE IS?
I THINK NO NEED TO WORRY FOR UNCOMPATIBLE PEOPLE.
FINDING A FRIEND OF OUR OWN MIND IS ALWAYS A HARD PROBLEM.
ITS DOESNOT MEAN IF ONE PERSON IS COMFORATBLE WITH ALL HE/SHE IS HAVING A GOOD FRIENDD CIRLE.
BEST OF LUCK!
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